Podcast Ep. 63 – The Power Inside the Pearl

Larry Olsen August 17, 2021

After being told that he had six months to live, Dr. Lycka decided that he was not going to let that be his fate. Eighteen years later, he is alive, in good health, as well as a best selling author and renowned speaker. His book, The Secrets of Living A Fantastic Life, chronicles the golden pearls within all of us that can push us to the next level of living an amazing life. A man full of tenacity, courage, and joy, with a mission to make the world a better place one person at a time. Dr. Lycka will allow you to see how the lowest of times can help you find the secrets to your success. Find out more about his book and his offerings on his website https://drallenlycka.com/

Transcript

Larry Olsen: Welcome. I’m Larry Olsen, and what’s on your mind? Once set, it delivers your life. To change the outcomes we want, we must change the plays we’re running. Join us at Mindset Playbook with Real people – Real talk for Real insight. 


Narrator: Today’s episode is sponsored by Aperneo, An Achievement Acceleration Company, whose approach to professional development enables clients to gain insights and perspectives to live, work, and engage with more success.

 

Larry Olsen I’d like to welcome everyone to Mindset Playbook. And thank you for taking the time to listen. Because of you, all of this is worthwhile from my side of it. And our intent is to make it worthwhile on your end of it. So, I I’m very excited about my guests today. It’s an absolute pleasure to have on my show Dr. Allen Lycka. Interestingly enough, in 2003, he was diagnosed with ALS and given six months to live, 18 years later after fighting a diagnosis, he’s here today as a result of his courage and determination, having been given a golden ticket to live every day to the fullest, Dr. Lycka used his experience to, coauthor of the book The Secrets of Living a Fantastic Life with Harriet Tinka, who also battled back from a near-death experience a bit more of his background. Dr. Allen Lycka is acknowledged as one of the leading cosmetic dermatologists in the world. A pioneer in cosmetic surgery, he helped develop several new technologies and has spoken at podiums around the globe. He’s written 17 books, 30 plus academic papers, and was awarded 16 consecutive Consumer Choice Awards for Excellence in Cosmetic Surgery, a feat no one has achieved before in the field as a transformational speaker, thought leader, coach and mentor who is widely acknowledged as a leading expert in living a fantastic life and turning points, he’s been a guest on dozens of television and radio shows and podcast, as well as featured in numerous newspaper articles, blogs and magazines. All in preparation, my friends, for this moment in his life to be my guest today. And I thank him for that, and I’m truly grateful.

 

Larry Olsen [00:07:07] He is a man driven by family values, happily married to his wife of thirty-nine years, Dr. Bernie Lycka. They have four wonderful daughters and seven beautiful grandchildren. Dr Lycka counts his family as his most important accomplishment. Dr. Lycka, with everything that’s taking you to this point in your life, what would you share as your “aha moment” that set the foundation for the rest of your life?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:07:40] You know, I don’t know if there was one “aha moment,” Larry, but there has been several you my history is rather unique. I’ll just go back and tell my story a little bit. You know, I was walking with my wife not too far from you and Disneyland, and it was in 2003 spring break February. I remember it as if it was yesterday. My wife turned to me and said, “What’s wrong with you?”. You know, Larry, I was taken aback. I had said anything wrong. I hadn’t done anything wrong. I hadn’t even thunk anything wrong. You think so when she said, What’s wrong with you? I had no idea what she was talking about. So, I said, “dear, what do you mean?”. She said, “Listen to your foot.”. Now, Larry, that’s the funniest statement I’ve ever heard. “Listen to your foot.” And I had no idea what she was saying. I said, dear, “what do you mean?”. She said, “Well, listen to it.”. Well, my right foot had suddenly and mysteriously developed a foot drop. It was flopping on the pavement with every step I was taking. Now your brain is designed not to let that happen. Your brain is designed really to say, hey, foot lift up, so you don’t fall flat on your face. But somehow something had gone wrong in my right foot was flapping.

 

[00:08:59] I said, “Dear, I really don’t know what’s wrong”. She said, “Did you have a stroke?”. I said, “Dear, you’re a doctor. I’m a doctor. That’s not stroke. Strokes do not present like that. If I had a stroke, I’d be lying on the pavement right now saying something incomprehensible.”. She said, “you’re right, but you know something is wrong. When we get back, you better get this checked out.”. So, Larry, when you get told that ultimatum by your spouse, what do you do?

 

Larry Olsen [00:09:30] You better take it.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:09:32] You better take it. You take it hard. And so, when we got back, I said dozens of doctors and literally hundreds of doctors, they did CAT scans, they did brain scans, they did the MRI. They even did scans of scans. And you know what they showed at the end of the day? Absolutely nothing. The doctors were befuddled. They thought I had a brain tumor or slipped disk or something, they could give it all to, but they found nothing. And you know what happens when a doctor finds nothing? He does more tests and more tests and more tests. I think they invented some tests, just do more tests. And at the end of all of this, they said, well, let’s send him to a neurologist. A neurologist is a brain doctor. He’s the doctor that’s supposed to have all the answers. He’s the doctor that’s supposed to know all the pieces to the puzzle. So, I walked into the office of this leading neurologist expecting to find some answers.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:10:38] I said “Hi.”. He said “Hi. You better be sitting down when I tell you this.”. I said, “Why have a drop right foot?”. He said, “No, you don’t. You have ALS, Lou Gehrig’s disease. Get your affairs in order. You have six months to live. “. Just like that. That’s what he said. You know, I was taken aback by all of this. So, I said, “Is there a way to prove this diagnosis?”. He said, “Of course, an autopsy.”.

 

[00:11:08] This guy had no bedside manner to be the brother of Mr. Doctor, Dr. House TV, you know, no bedside manner whatsoever. And I said, “You know, I’m not going to die to prove you wrong.”. So, I walked out, I slammed the door when I walked out. You know, when you go through something like this, you go through a grief reaction. A grief reaction occurs when you’ve lost something. And Elizabeth Cooper Ross wrote about it in a book called, Death and Dying. She said there’s five phases a person goes through when they’re dying. She said, you go through anger. While I was angry, I could bite the head off nails, it was an angry, angry, angry hippie, knew I was angry and I didn’t get my way as a result. You go through bargaining. Bargaining occurs when you say, oh, God, please don’t let this happen. I’ll do anything if you don’t let this happen. But, you know, like God, God wasn’t listening, at least so I thought. Then there was then there’s denial. Denial is not the river in Egypt, it’s not The Nile. It’s really a process you go through, and you say, oh, there’s nothing wrong. I can do anything. There’s nothing wrong with me, but I have to drop right foot. And as this thing progressed, I developed a weak right hand I couldn’t hold my scalpels. I couldn’t hold my lasers anymore. But, you know, I was smart. I was talented. I learned to become left-handed where I was right-handed. So, I didn’t let that teach me. But then you go through depression, have you ever been depressed?

 

Larry Olsen [00:12:41] I have, yeah.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:12:43] It’s very it’s an awful phase. Everything is dark, everything is gloomy, everything is miserable. You stay in bed in the morning, you literally stare at the ceiling, and you say, why should I do it? Yeah, you can’t eat. You can’t sleep.

 

Larry Olsen [00:13:00] Doctor Lycka, do you think you were starting to buy into the diagnosis at that point?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:13:03] I was afraid that I was, I was afraid of that.

 

Larry Olsen [00:13:09] Intellectually, you probably knew not to.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:13:11] Yeah, intellectually I knew not to. But this doctor said you have ALS, you know, and I was starting to experience more and more symptoms. So I said, jeez, I went to my wife and I said, “Dear, what do I have?”. She said, “I haven’t got the faintest idea. But you’re smart. You can figure it out. “. Well, thank you for the vote of confidence. That’s wonderful. But I still got to figure it out while back in 2003, something new was invented. It’s called the Internet. You ever heard of that?

 

Larry Olsen [00:13:43] You know, I’ve heard rumors about it.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:13:52] The Internet is such a wonderful thing, but it’s one of the it’s like the best library in the world, but it’s full of garbage cans. You can’t tell the garbage cans from the books. And that’s the problem with the

 

Larry Olsen [00:14:05] You have to peel the onion, don’t you?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:14:07] You sure do. Back in two 2003, it was very primitive. You couldn’t do it like signed on like you do now. There was no high-speed connections there, was there? In fact, you had to get on by a dial on connection. That’s where your phone went into a cradle, and it connected with another phone someplace else. And it made crazy noises for about fifteen minutes until it would finally connect. And when it connected, you had to use the language like dots to talk to the computer because there wasn’t enough memory in computers back then. We didn’t have Dr. Google; we didn’t have Dr. Yahoo to tell us what to do now. Now we’ve got some wonderful tools, but we didn’t there. But I had friends that were nerds and they helped me navigate the scope of the Internet. And because of their help, I found a doctor in Colorado Springs, Colorado, by the name of David Marte’s. David was a doctor, a hematologist who had a diagnosis similar to mine. And he got worse, much more rapidly. And he was so well known. He was on his deathbed and doctors from around the world were coming to say goodbye to a well, a doctor from Texas came up to see Dr. Marks. His name was Dr. Harvey. And he looked at that and said that there’s something wrong with this picture. I don’t think you have the ALS. I don’t think you have Lou Gehrig’s disease. I think you have something else.

 

[00:15:35] I said, “what do I have?”. He said, “Well, I think you’ve been bitten by a tick, and you have something called chronic Lyme disease.”. Chronic Lyme disease mimics ALS. It looks just like it. And unless you know about it, you will go down the wrong path. Dr. Harvey said, “Well, more important than that, I can start you on treatment. If I’m right, you’ll get miraculously better.”. Well, then a miracle happened. He started on treatment and David Marx was like Lazarus arising from the dead just a couple of weeks later. It was amazing. He could do everything at David’s Target clinic to treat people with this weird disease called The Rocky Mountain Chronic Disease Clinic. So, I knew I had to get in touch with David. So, I phoned every hospital in Colorado, and I found him at the Methodist Hospital in Colorado Springs. And David and I talked for hours. David said, “Can you come down and see me?”. I said, “I’d love to.”. So, I got down to Colorado, and met him. David is a doctor, and he says, Lycka you’re not looking so good”. And I said, “you know, David, I’m not feeling so good.”. And we talked for hours. And he at the end of that talk, he said something miraculous. He said, “I think history is repeating itself. I think I could start you on treatment, I think you could get better.”. And as a result. That’s why I’m here today. I’m here as a result of this wonderful thing that he started me on.

 

Larry Olsen [00:19:10] Oh, that’s fantastic, you know, and I thank you for sharing that, because if you think about what you did, which a lot of people don’t, we’ve been so brought up to respect authority, and your authority was also a peer having been another Dr., but you challenged your death sentence, if you will. And it’s almost like when people lose a job, they’ve got to challenge it as opposed to just, “oh, I’ve lost my job”, or like Helen Kubler Ross and they go through all the stages, just as you mentioned to us. One of the things that I wanted you to talk a little bit about, is how did this transition, this experience transition into the books that you’ve written in the works that you’ve done to assist individuals in going through the issues that they find themselves facing in everyday life?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:20:13] Sure. Well, I’ll tell a little bit more of my story and that will help to fill in the blanks. In 2003, I decided I figured, I haven’t done enough. I really haven’t helped people enough. So being a cosmetic surgeon, I sponsored an award for the YWCA called the Women of Distinction Award. You see, in our society, even today, women are not given the kudos that they really need. They’re not given the respect they need. So, the YWCA had this award, so I became the main sponsor. And as a result of that, a young lady by the name of Harriet Tinka, my coauthor, decided to apply for the award. The category was ‘Turning Points,’ and she had a life very similar to mine, but totally different. She was a world class model walking the cat walks of New York, and she decided at the end of the day that she just didn’t want to do it anymore. So, she wanted to pursue her second career, which was to become an accountant. And so, she went to the University of Calgary and unfortunately, she met somebody very evil there. This person decided to befriend her, but he turned out to be an awful person. He ended up being very possessive. He ended up kidnaping her, stabbing her and leaving her for dead.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:21:40] So but somehow Harriet got out of that. She was delivered to the hospital, probably by this guy who was very remorseful. And she ended up meeting a young girl by the name of Amber, was a young child, was wheeling herself in a wheelchair throughout the hospital. She met Harriet, and asked “What are you here for?” Harriet explain her story and the girl said, “You shouldn’t be sad. I was in a car accident. Both of my parents died, and I lost use of my legs. Yet I’m as happy as a lark. I’m going to be a successful person and I’m going to get through this. You must use your story to tell people and become successful as well. You can help them lift themselves out of their doldrums as well.”. And Harriet thought about it, she saw this award being advertised on the Internet and she said, Jesus is a great opportunity. And at the award ceremony, she said she came up to me and said, “Dr Lycka, we need to have lunch. Can I buy you lunch?”. And we talked and we did have lunch. You know, we have to write a book together. And that’s when we started writing our book called The Secrets to Living a Fantastic Life, which became a best seller and the pandemic of 2020 bestseller. Now, many people thought we were nuts. Launching a book in a pandemic, why would anybody want to book in a pandemic? Well, it became a bestseller, so I think a lot of people wanted that book, and we’re very glad we did. And this is where we started on this journey. And I decided to walk away from my cosmetic surgery career in 2019 and pursue my other goal, which is to educate people and help other people live a life that’s fantastic, live a life that’s all the things they wanted to be live a life that they can really get to the peak of their existence.

 

Larry Olsen [00:23:43] Beautiful. And what were some of the things that you discovered because all of us have a life, all of us have had experiences, all of us had traumatic events that have occurred in our lives and very few individuals are really articulate and look at it as a steppingstone of courage and strength and resilience to be able to move forward.  And you were blessed with, you know, a great mind and having the opportunity to experience success as a cosmetic dermatologist and all of the other things that you’ve been able to accomplish in your life. What was the synchronicity that occurred between the two of you that kind of gave life to this this whole book idea and the book itself?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:24:38] But let’s go through that a little bit. But I’m going to say that our book is based on 13 gold and pearls. And let me explain, you know, what causes the pearl to be formed?

 

Larry Olsen [00:24:51] It goes through some traumatic experiences, doesn’t it?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:24:54] Yeah you see what happens is an oyster gets traumatized by a little grain of sand inside of its shell. And instead of being destroyed by that grain of sand, what it does is wall it off with the material called luster and that lustrous material makes a pearl. Now, there are actually gold and pearls in the world. They’re made in the South Pacific by a particular type of moisture. And that oyster gets that wall, that little grain of sand that makes this beautiful golden pearl. And you see this golden pearl, so miraculous that it really, it’s so valuable that a single, solitary golden pearl can sell upwards of $10,000.

 

[00:25:35] Now Harriet and I through our process discovered that these golden pearls actually exist inside of each and every one of us. Each and every one of us has these golden pearls. And so, these are even more valuable than the golden pearl analogy, I would say they are invaluable. We’ve written our book based on 13 golden pearls. And those 13 golden pearls are what people need to use as a shingle to help themselves through. And each one of them is based on a little story. Each one of them has quotes from the world’s experts on the on the topic. And each one of them is something that people can lean on and really move forward with. And that’s the wonderful thing that we found in our book, is these little golden pearls are amazing little things that people should be able to grow through and use to help themselves.

 

Larry Olsen [00:26:35] Outstanding. My program mindset playbook is about the fact that we all have ideas and experiences that we go through, and many people have the experience where, the circumstances they find themselves in start defining them, as opposed to them defining themselves and then experiencing the circumstances.  And it’s very rare when people are able to not only discover that, but be able to implement that, because how much conversation do, we have around what’s going wrong in the world? I mean, turn on the television for an hour. You hear that about less than 10 percent of what actually is happening in the world and it’s all negative. So, we come in this fear-based kind of reality. And so, when people have bad experiences rather than I’ll find a way through this, it’s likely what we expect all those types of things typically take place in my life. And when you get into your pearls, one of the things the biggest challenges people face is they’ll gain insights, but they won’t necessarily apply. And without the application or any consistencies, we just gain insights. What have you found in your own life that’s allowed you to move beyond the circumstance? And how have you, defined you?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:28:03] Let’s start with a simple way. Again, those are pretty deep concepts and sometimes deep concepts are one’s people cannot grasp. I’m going to start with something very important. The basis of what I have to tell you is, is a simple statement. It was a statement by Epictetus, who is a Greek scientist from two thousand years ago, and he stated that “it’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do with what happens”. And I think that’s the basic premise of what I am about, that it’s not what happens to you and what you do with what happens.  I’m going to share with you a story from my book and it’s on tenacity and strength. 

 

Dr. Lycka [00:28:46] It starts 1816, when a fellow was forced out of his home, he had to go to work to support the young boy. In 1818, his mother died. In 1831 he failed in business, in 1832 he ran for the state legislature and lost.  In 1832, he also lost his job. You want to go to law school but couldn’t in. In 1833 borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year, he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years paying off his debt, making 30 to 40 grand for the state legislature. But in 1835 was engaged to be married. Sweetheart died and his heart was broken. 1836 he had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months. In 1838, he was sought to become speaker of the state legislature and was defeated. In 1840 he sought to become an elector and was defeated. In 1843 he ran for Congress and lost. In 1846 he ran for Congress again. This time he won, but he went to Washington and did a good job but in 1848 he was up for reelection and lost in 1849 he sought the job of a land title officer in his home state and was rejected. He ran for the Senate in 1854 and he lost. In 1856 he sought to become vice president at his party’s national convention, and he got less than one hundred votes. In 1858 he ran for the United States Senate and lost again. But in 1860 he ran for President of the United States and became President. This is the story of Abraham Lincoln. Now talk about a person that had fifty feet over and over and over again and somebody that literally grew to the heights of being one of the greatest presidents of all time. He was a very, very amazing time. You know, he had to preside over a civil war and everything else, but he was president. This is what I want people to realize that your defeat should not define you. They should not be something that really makes it matter how you become successful. Just take baby steps, little steps every day, little concrete steps every day. Each one of those little concrete steps make an impression and make the world a better place and make your world a better place. You know, if you’re a street sweeper, as Mahatma Gandhi said, you should be the best street sweeper there is. And that’s what this attempt to do, is to become the best at what you do. You should attempt to do everything that you do and the best way possible. And if you do that, you will make the world a better place and make your world a better place. You know, it’s the heights of it’s the depths of despair that makes her successes that much more palatable. We don’t understand her successes unless we have those despairs that are there. So really, those are the golden moments that allow us to move forward. Our failures allow us to make success. Larry, did you know that you learn more from failure than you do from success any day? So, we should get over those failures quickly and move forward from that, because really all our failures are just steppingstones to move there. There was an inventory where the name of Thomas Edison that invented something called the light bulb. Now, he failed thousands of times, making it there. But all he said after each failure was, he said that he found a different way to make it work and he said, this one’s not going to work. I got to try something else. And that’s what we really have to do in this in this beautiful life of ours. We’ve just come through a terrible pandemic. But the pandemic is giving us seeds to even be more powerful as well and really make it a better place. You know, this media consume was not being used like it was now. Now it’s an amazing thing where we can get around the world in seconds. I can visit with you in California, whereas I’m in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, and I can really share my thoughts and values and everything else with you. So, the world is a smaller place, and we could really make it a better place because the tools that are with us now and we if we use those tools for good, the world will even be better. Yeah.

 

Larry Olsen [00:33:46] Beautiful. Thank you. That was very nice. I want to kind of peel away now from the books and the information that you’ve learned along the way and kind of get into you as the person. What you’ve been talking about as a power of vision? I mean, Lincoln didn’t let that stop him. He had something more on his mind. Edison already knew the light would go on. So, as you said, you know, “this didn’t work instead of I don’t work”. And the profundity of the information you’re sharing is glaringly insightful. And so, my question for you is, at a young age, what do you think your vision was? What do you think was on your mind that continued to allow you to overcome the challenges that you faced, even to the point of the Lou Gehrig’s? I mean, you didn’t give up. You didn’t write your epithet and use your last six months to do that and kind of shrivel up and die. There was something else that was brighter than that for you. Can you articulate to us maybe as a younger man, what do you think that was that caused you to overcome all of these challenges that you faced?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:35:11] As a young boy? I was troubled by having very bad asthma and my asthma was such that we didn’t have a lot of good medications to treat it back then.

 

Larry Olsen [00:35:19] Yeah.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:35:20] So I ended up in the hospital almost every winter. I mean, to just to breathe. And so, it was a very trying time. But I couldn’t play hockey with the kids. I couldn’t go out, do all the sports the other kids to. So, I, I turned to another thing. I turned to reading, I turned to reading books and books were one of my greatest teachers and I found that books still for some of my greatest teachers. I love to read biographies and autobiographies because they give you insights into other people’s lives and it teaches you how to do things in a different way. So, I encourage others to read profusely, read books, read novels, read biographies and autobiographies, and read about other things that other people are doing. And you can then find some nuggets that you can use to take you to another level. You can then learn little things as a result and use those things to move forward. And I think one of the greatest things a person can do is write a journal called the Gratitude Journal where every day you write down three things, you’re grateful for. Now, even in the even the poorest Americans, more than some of the people in Malaysia or India that are starving today. So, your group should be grateful for a lot of things know we are given some of the greatest things in the world and we can result as a result of them. You know, those children being poor as a child. My family was very peaker and did not have things. But because of those things I learned to deal with not having much and not having much. You can certainly do a lot more with everything else that you’re given. Everything that you’re given is something that’s a really great thing. So those are the things I’d like to share with your audience about moving forward and trying to move forward each thinker. Given your gift, you know, I could have never been the greatest hockey player in the world, so I’m glad I never went down that far. But, you know, I did pretty well as a scholar. I did pretty well as a cosmetic surgeon, and I did pretty well in the areas that I went into. So, I’m very grateful that I chose the path that I did.

 

Larry Olsen [00:37:37] Beautiful, you know, you’re just a joy, I’ve got to tell you, this is just wonderful listening to you, and I’m so grateful that you’re sharing what you’re sharing because. It doesn’t matter how many times we hear something, it takes that moment in our life when it makes the difference, when we need to hear it. And I know that people that are listening right now, as well as myself, that are looking at their own life and the things that they’ve made a big deal out of. And then when they hear your stories and your spirit, you’ve got a great spirit to you. It’s just almost infectious. I have a grin on my face while I’m listening to you. And that is really a wonderful thing to have. You know, a lot of people have issues with people that are optimistic. They call him in la la land. But you’re also a pragmatist. You know, an optimist is not someone who doesn’t take action. It’s not someone who closes their eyes, clicks their heels together and thinks they’re going to end up in Kansas for crying out loud. It’s someone that takes action, like you said, and you talked about baby steps and how important that is. What are you looking forward to now in your life?

 

Dr. Lycka [00:38:45] You know, my life is every day is a joyous life. Every day I get to do exactly what I want to do. Every day I get to really shape my own destiny. So, what am I looking for and looking forward to educating more people? I am a professional speaker of anybody out there listening, needs a professional speaker, needs to be motivated. I’d love to help them with that. And all you have to do is go to my website, Dr. Allen Lyck.com and go there and see what I have to offer. I would love to help people now, but the pandemic is loosening up a bit and we’re able to do things. We can do more that way. So, any group, any size, please get in touch with me. Also, if you want me as a virtual speaker, well, we can do that instantly. And that’s the beautiful thing about all these things, is that we have the tools at our disposal now that can really make the world a better place. So, every day that I have, I look forward and say, oh, jeez, I’ve been given a second life. I’ve been given a second chance, let’s make the best of it. Let’s make the world a better place and let’s make people that are like thinking even better. And if a person is down and out, let’s make it better for them. And I’m going to challenge your audience to help with that. Today, I’m going to say do something for a neighbor today that you would regularly do. You know, if you can bake cookies, bake a dozen cookies, and put them on your neighbor’s doorstep and just say it’s a free little gift or maybe just talk to your neighbor across the fence. How many people don’t even do that? They don’t even know their neighbors. Or maybe when you’re going to drive in and getting your morning cup of coffee from Starbucks, buy the coffee for the next person in line, make their day a better place as well. You’d be you’d be amazed what happens when you pay it forward. You’d be amazed what happens by giving little things to people and how the world will change.

 

Larry Olsen [00:40:49] Beautiful, beautiful. Wow, you’ve really shared wonderful insights for us all, and I can tell you how powerful that is, we had the opportunity to go to a neighborhood here in town that my son, had been involved in, and he’s just turned thirty-one. And the lady came from across the street, walked over and she said, you know, you look like Connor. And so, she recognizes the similarities. And she said, I just got to tell you, you know, I lost my husband a year and a half ago and I was pulling out of the driveway, and I had shared that with Connor. About two weeks ago, I pulled out of the driveway. He pulled in front of me. He got out of his car. He asked me to get out of my car. I got out of my car. He gave me a big hug, whispered in my ear, it’s going to be OK. And, boy, I just teared me up and she said, you did a great job in bringing up your son. And I think it’s more my son has done a great job with his life and recognizing what’s important. And I agree with you 100% that we all have that opportunity to take advantage of the moments that we have. And, you know, this is really kind of an interesting statement. We’re not all blessed with being able to have a life-threatening experience and then overcome it, because I think that really gets someone’s attention in life and makes them see the yin and yang and the black and the white and that you can’t have joy without sorrow and vice versa. But what you’ve done with it and that wonderful experience that you’ve had with Harriet and that writing that book together and so many people that you’ve helped, I just want to thank you for being you and for doing the things that you’ve done and are continuing to do.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:42:46] And I’d like to do something a little bit more. And I’d like to thank everybody that’s listening to a free copy of my book, a digital copy. And all they have to do is go to my Web site. Dr.AllenLycka.com and go to the box and put your name in and a free digital copy will be delivered to you so you can have a free, wonderful copy and share it as much as you can share that with others, because I’d like the world to be a better place. And if I can help just one person today that I’ve really met my goal, I’ve really met my accomplishment today. And that’s what I love to do. Just slowly but surely changing the world to a better place, not the negativism that we see, not the anger that we see, not the denial that we see. Let’s move forward. Let’s get this all behind us. Let’s move forward and make it better. And if you haven’t been vaccinated, get vaccinated, for Pete’s sake. It really can make the world better and really put this biggest hurdle we’ve had in the last couple of years behind us.

 

Larry Olsen [00:43:57] Yeah, amen, and just for your information, doctor, I can guarantee you that you’ve made one person’s day better and that’s myself.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:44:08] Well, fantastic. Thank you for that. I really is my pleasure. It really is my honor to be on your show. And if I can do more, if I can be helpful to you in any other way, please let me know it. It’s my pleasure to serve people in a better way than I have ever done in my life.

 

Larry Olsen [00:44:27] God bless you. I very much appreciate that. And I want to tell everyone, all our listeners out there, that at the time has come now that we’re going to let you kind of incubate a little bit on what’s been shared and ask yourself, “what am I going to do to pay it forward?” And I want to thank you again for tuning into mindset playbook. And however, you’ve done that, the fact that you’ve done it and I am grateful, and I know Dr. Lycka is. I just want to remind everybody to remember that wherever you happen to be right now is exactly where you need to be to have the best life you can possibly be and be the best version of yourself. So, thank you all and thank you, Dr. Lycka. It’s been a pleasure. And I look forward to an opportunity to have our paths meet in the future.

 

Dr. Lycka [00:45:14] Sounds wonderful, Larry. It really is my pleasure to be on your show. Thank you for having me.

 

Larry Olsen [00:45:20] You’re more than welcome. Thank you. 

 

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