It’s the Choices We Make That Create the Life We Live
Larry Olsen September 12, 2019
Have you ever heard about making choices? That everything that happens in our life is a result of the choices we’ve made? Are we simply a result of our choices? Can we change our life simply by changing our choices?
If you want to change your life, in any area, you must make new choices; not just live the choices you’ve already made.
Follow me for a moment; most people are simply reliving their choices whether they were made 30 years or 30 minutes ago. 95% of us are making choices based on the past, but they are different choices than one would think. For an example: When you brush your teeth in the morning your using the toothpaste that was a past decision. You’ve already chosen it, so now you’re simply using the choice you already made. Make sense? When you shower in the morning, you’re simply choosing to use the shampoo you’ve already made a choice to purchase, and now you are using it. If you’re married or have a significant other your choosing to be with someone you’ve already chosen.
Now that makes sense and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, until there is. And that happens when you want to make a change.
There is a statement that rarely makes sense but has so much truth to it and that statement is; I’d rather be right than successful. That apparently is what Einstein was referring to when he said; “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.” We know we do that because it’s routine and routine is easy because it’s routine. Einstein is also saying; choosing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I want to watch a movie with my family but because I need to be right about what I want to watch, I end up watching a movie by myself.
Once the choice has been made, we respond without even thinking about it. An example would be; how many times does someone need to be late before you’ve chosen to see them as late? Once the choice has been made, then without knowing it, we respond to the choice we made, not the evidence we see. So, when they show up on time, someone gets sarcastic. “What, did your watch break?” Our choice of them is so powerful that even though we see them on time, we still unconsciously stick with the original choice that they are late. We can do that with our family, co-workers, friends, faith, finances, strangers, adventure, trying new foods, and our self? It’s the choices we make that make the life we live. Look at the choices you’ve made that now you’re responding to, and ask yourself if you like or would like to change your response?
Rather than be upset all the time or let down often, doubt or trying hard to be confident; look at your choice and choose to live differently. In other words, choose a new choice. I choose to be grateful and everything changes, not because I changed anything, but because my perspective changed, and perspective is everything. Remember, if you look for red, it’s all you’ll see.
To great choices,
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